We all live inside of bubbles that have built up through habits, priorities, memories, expectations, thoughts and perceptions about self and how life is. We peer out at the world and other people through our own bubbles, and make decisions in accordance with what we have encoded in them.
There are times in life when the bubble bursts. This is a turning point, a time when we think to ourselves:
Why didn’t I know this before?
How could I have been so blind?
It often happens when there is a shock or crisis. Things like a medical diagnosis, breakdowns, divorce, affairs, retrenchment, bereavement and loss burst our bubbles.
Suddenly all the busy, outward focused life seems less important. It is a sobering experience. Through it we get to see into our life with clarity and new perceptive. As the bubble bursts, we are faced with a much deeper and different perspective on everything and everybody known.
These revelations are Divine and ordinary at the same time. Whether it’s about taking better care of ourselves, or showing our love more, or being more supportive to others, we are likely to want to change our perspective. At times like these it is likely our priorities and life direction will alter simultaneously.
We cannot go back to how things were when we were in the bubble. Change is inevitable. We could have made many decisions along the way that might have avoided it, but most likely that is not the case as it was always going to happen. Call it destiny or karma, it just landed, right here where we are.
It may not be what our personalities would have thought was going to happen. Through what at first seems like a disaster, growth and development can occur which adds depth, beauty, purpose and meaning to our life.
If you are going through challenges, try to pull back from the priorities and expectations you have habitually placed upon yourself. Make some room to contemplate, question, adapt, change and if necessary, make course corrections in your life. It is important to get support at a time like this since we can’t do it on our own.